Historically, there are two schools of thought on revenge. The Bible, in Exodus 21:23, instructs us to “give life for life, eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot” to punish an offender. Then, more than 2,000 years later, Martin Luther King Jr., responded, “The old law of ‘an eye for an eye’ leaves everybody blind.”
Who’s right? I think it’s possible that both theories have some merit, while exacting revenge may make you feel as if you have taken back some control or power in a hopeless situation, revenge comes at a price. Instead of helping you move on with your life, it can leave you dwelling on the situation and remaining unhappy. Considering revenge is a very human response to feeling slighted, humans are atrocious at predicting its effects.
When Revenge Goes Wrong
While wanting revenge at someone who has slighted you may be a knee-jerk reaction, it is sometimes best to take the time to think about the possible consequences of your actions. Take Marie Lupe Cooley ( 41, of Jacksonville, Fla.) When Marie saw a help-wanted ad in the newspaper for a position that looked suspiciously like her current job — and with her boss’s phone number listed — she assumed she was about to be fired.
So, she went to the architectural office where she works late Sunday night and erased 7 years’ worth of drawings and blueprints, estimated to be worth $2.5 million.
It didn’t take Steven Hutchins, owner of the architectural firm that bears his name, much time to figure out who’d done it — Cooley was the only other person who had full access to the files. Police arrested Cooley Monday evening and charged her with causing greater than $1,000 damage to computer files, a felony. She was bailed out the following afternoon.As for the job, Cooley originally wasn’t in danger of losing it. The ad was for Hutchins’ wife’s company.
Whoops. So Marie pretty much went and fucked everything up, all because she jumped to conclusions and sought out vengeance without taking time to think things through. Think it through people! Figure out whether or not it is worth it to you.
When It’s Not Worth It
It’s not worth it if taking that revenge is going to hurt you as much as it hurts them. It’s not worth it if it’s aimed at someone you still care about, because deep down, you’re going to regret it. It’s not worth it if the revenge means that you continue to dwell on the person or situation that brought you to wanting revenge. If plotting revenge is stopping you from moving on and getting some closure from the situation, it’s not worth it. Sometimes, the best thing you can do for yourself is move on, continue being awesome and forget about it. That other person is already fucked, they have to wake up every day and be themselves, they have to live their lame life. You get to wake up and be you! You’re fabulous! (I love your hair like that by the way.)
When It Is Worth It
When you’re dealing with a situation or a person that has left you feeling completely impotent, revenge can be a way to take some power back for yourself. Will signing your cheating ex up for various charity and telemarketing lists solve all your problems? No, but it might make you feel a little bit better knowing that at least you’ve done something to release some pain, it may not be the healthiest thing, but at least it’s something.
To summarize, I’m not going to be one of those people who says “revenge is never worth it.” I think that vengeance has its merits, (I’m a fan of it myself, so I advise you never to cross me bitches) The only advice I’m going to give on the matter is think before you act, is your form of revenge going to come back and bite you in the arse? It’s not worth going to jail just to get back at someone who has wronged you. Like the saying goes, the best form of revenge is leading a good life, (just make sure you have that person on your Facebook friends list so that they are forced to see how awesome your life is).
Until next time gentle reader, peace out and stay rad.